Some things in life pretty much suck. Like missing your train and arriving late—or never arriving at your destination at all.
So I’ve turned 25. When I think about my life, it sometimes feels like I didn’t just miss my train, but I rocked up at the wrong station without a ticket. What was I thinking? Why did no one tell me? I could kick myself. Back when I was 15, I imagined that by now I would be a hotshot lawyer, saving the world, wearing great shoes and living in a swish penthouse with prince charming. Let’s just say—shoes aside—things have not exactly gone to plan.
But hey, I’m certainly not the only one. If George Ezra hadn’t missed his train to Budapest he could not have written that song. If Adele hadn’t suffered the heartache of a messy breakup, she would never have written that album. Silver linings are pretty much everywhere you look. Even Rihanna has the secret to her success inked across her collarbone: ‘Never a failure, always a lesson’. It’s true. Life happens. And in my experience, looking for the upside is how you get to the good part.
So let’s rewind… I’m 25. Life has been unexpectedly beautiful. Do I really regret not becoming the boring, caricature of perfection I dreamed of being back when I was 15? Nope, not at all. But it has taken a fair few knocks, rejections and moments of despair for me to learn that the journey is as important as the destination. For every door that slammed in my face, another pretty awesome one has opened. I’m still not exactly where I want to be, and I still haven’t achieved all the things I want to achieve, but that makes life pretty exciting right now. Ok, so I missed my train but #OnTheUpside I showed up at the wrong station.
Written by Shirin Zaid
Photograph by QSimple